Part of being a blogger is running the risk that people will disparage you via comments on a post, a bulletin board discussion, a message on Twitter, an email, a parody blog or to your face. In most blog niches (science, medicine, academic, political, pop culture, religion, finance, fashion, gaming, cooking, etc) this is an accepted fact. Not so in the Mommy Blogosphere.
Recently, several high profile mommy bloggers have written posts lamenting the rise of sites and communities that skewer, question, satirize, parody and mock blogs. I can understand being angry or embarrassed by these critiques, but hurt? Shocked? Defensive? No. Did these women not realize there was a downside to profiting from placing their private lives in the public domain? Were they unaware that they were aping Kate Gosselin and Kris Jenner?
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If you are considering starting a mommy blog, here are five ways to cope with the possibility (or rather, eventuality) of critical feedback:
1. do not blog,
2. from the get-go set clear limits about what you will reveal on your blog and weigh every post with an eye to protecting your privacy or opening yourself up to criticism,
3. blog about whatever you want whenever the mood strikes with nary a care about privacy and don't give your detractors a second thought,
4. blog every private thought and intimate moment you have, lap up the compliments of strangers like it's mother's milk, and when people snark about you freak the fuck out and behave like a wounded animal, or
5. blog exclusively about your cats.
Option #2 is the one that I use. Though some days I can see the merit of #5. I think #1 is the safest bet for most people. Kudos to everyone who goes with #3, you are braver than I. As for #4 on the list...
FOR THE LOVE OF YOUR GOD, DO NOT CHOOSE #4! Please, I'm begging you. Do not broadcast your life, reap financial benefits, enjoy the notoriety, and glory in the gratification of strangers then get self-righteously indignant when you belatedly realize that not everyone on the planet is enamoured of your online persona. If you want to star in the internet equivalent of a reality television show, go ahead. But don't complain about it. Instead, go back to the above list and pick a different style of blog.
While you're thinking that through, here are some photos of my cats. They are SO CUTE!
(Did you see the creepy big bug on the outside window sill?)